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Saturday, March 3, 2018

7 Questions to Bring Out the Best in People



Based on 75-year-old Psychology Advice.

How much of yourself did you leave in the trunk of your car today?
A coworker retired this month. In his life, he started a charity, worked with under-privileged kids, wrote a novel, and raised a beautiful family.
That’s what he did outside of work. At work? He processed forms.
He led a great life. And he was a great man. Yet every day, he drove to work, and left that great part of himself in the trunk of his car.
So he could process forms.
This isn’t a unique story. People are amazing. They do tremendous things.
Talk to the people around you. They’re artists and poets. They’re coaches and leaders. They’re social workers and political advocates and lifelong learners.
They’re all these things and more. On their free time.
At work? At work, they process forms. They follow procedures. And they do what’s asked of them.
Except what’s asked of them isn’t that impressive. Not compared to what they’re capable of.
How do we change this? How do we encourage people to be their best selves at work?
How do we, to paraphrase Harry Davis of the University of Chicago, “make it so people don’t leave parts of themselves in the trunk of their car?”
And I think that maybe the answer lies in a 75 year-old psychology paper.

A Psychological Turning Point

Prior to 1943, the study of psychology focused on the mentally ill. It prioritized avoidance and correction.
In 1943, the practice changed. One psychologist issued a paper called A Theory of Human Motivation and forever altered psychology’s path. Instead of studying the mentally ill, he reviewed top performers. Instead of correcting problems, he offered opportunities for improvements.
He changed psychology from treating people as a “bag of symptoms” to focus on people’s potential for good, famously saying, “The new age which is already upon us is essentially the product of the turning inward to the self.”
The psychologist was Abraham Maslow. And he developed the famed Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Often shown as a pyramid, it suggests people have multiple levels of needs, with higher level needs (self esteem and self-actualization) only becoming a priority after basic needs (safety and security) are met.
Maslow considered the lower levels of the pyramid to be “deficiency needs” as we’re typically motivated by their absence. Once gained to a sufficient level, their motivational power drops. And as we all know, once you have $45 million in the bank, going up to $46 million doesn’t bring a lot of added incentive.
In contrast, the top level, self-actualization, is a “growth need.” When we’re pursuing something for the sake of mastery, each gain fuels the desire for more. Each achievement brings more motivation as we strive to reach our full potential.
Which also drives people to do the amazing things they do.

The Traditional Bargain

“Our world no longer fairly compensates people who are cogs in a giant machine.” — Seth Godin, Linchpin
Most companies offer a bargain. They say, come here and follow our instructions. Do as we tell you. In return, we’ll take care of you.
We’ll give you money. We’ll give you security. We’ll even host company events so you can make friends.
And it’s safe. If you’re following our process, you’re not really risking yourself. Come take the safe deal. It comes with your very own cubicle.
It’s enticing. Well, maybe not the cubicle part. But the safety, the security, the belonging. Those are seductive. It’s difficult to look past those.
That’s why companies focus on them. And that’s also why the majority of people are disengaged at work. And why they leave so much of themselves in the trunk of their car.

Aim for the Higher Level

Where does your company focus? What bargains does it offer?
Are you only offering those lower level needs?
Make no mistake, people need fair, competitive wages. While a lot of people will tell you that money won’t make you happy, those people always seem to have enough.
People need stability. No one likes working under constant threat of layoff.
And people need belonging. As most people who work at conservative news programs know, it’s difficult to be happy working besides people you can’t respect.
These needs are important. They cannot be ignored.
But they are not enough. Not if we want people to bring their best selves to work.
As psychologist Barry Schwartz wrote, “If we design workplaces that permit people to find meaning in their work, we will be designing a human nature that values work.”
Lower level needs are the entrance fee. They’re the starting point. They need to be covered. But they’re not enough to motivate people to consistently bring their best selves to work.

Live the Questions

So how do we bring self-actualization into our jobs? How do we bring these amazing things out of people?
I don’t have the answers. And any that I offered would be too generic to apply to your specific situation.
But I do have questions. Questions that I’ve often asked other companies regarding this same issue. So ask yourself a couple. Or ask your own. And maybe they’ll help lead you to those answers.
Does anyone really care about your mission?
Most employees don’t care about shareholder benefits. Or company returns or any other fancy financial data. People want to understand that their work is contributing toward a greater benefit. One that they’re proud to be a part of.
What are you doing to make people feel proud of their contribution? If you’re asking people to give their all, what do you expect them to give their all for?
Or as Simon Sinek wrote, “If the leader of the organization can’t clearly articulate WHY the organization exists in terms beyond its products or services, then how does he expect the employees to know WHY to come to work?”
Can you connect peoples’ short-term goals to their long-term goals?
Everyone’s happy to help with the short-term goals. Short-term goals support the company’s needs. Write this report. Ship this product. Turn this crank.
And most companies do encourage people to have long-term goals. They’re happy to ask employees where they want to be in five years. But few companies actively plan to make sure those short-term actions contribute towards peoples’ long-term goals. To ensure today’s assignment will benefit that five year vision.
Employees know when a company invests in their development. They appreciate the support. But more importantly, they’re able to let that growth compound. As Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, through his work on Flow, described,
“When we choose a goal and invest ourselves in it to the limits of our concentration, whatever we do will be enjoyable. And once we have tasted this joy, we will redouble our efforts to taste it again. This is the way the self grows.”
How frequently do you give people the opportunity to truly contribute?
Meaning comes from constant pursuit. It’s the focus of consistently building on yesterday’s progress that drives fulfillment and brings out our best efforts.
The great Lou Holtz once said “If what you did yesterday seems big, you haven’t done anything today.” Are you giving people the opportunity to do something big today?
Or as Bruce Lee wrote in his unfinished work, In My Own Process,
“The maintenance of self-esteem is a continuous task that taxes all of the individual’s power and inner resources. We have to prove our worth and justify our existence anew each day.”
What problems do you trust people to solve?
Go to a grocery store. Bring an expired coupon. If a cashier refuses to accept it, complain to a manager. The manager then accepts it.
Most grocery stores instruct their cashiers not to accept expired coupons. But managers are instructed to honor them if people complain. Can you imagine a better way to show people that you they’re not trusted?
You hire people to be responsible. Let them be responsible. In the words of John J. Bernet, “Men are more important than tools. If you don’t believe so, put a good tool in the hands of a poor workman.”
How do you encourage employees to bring out their best ideas?
Standardization often gets a bad rap. We think of mindless factory workers soon to be replaced by machines. But standardization is also a benefit. It gives people guidance so they can reliably start from the best position.
The difference in mindless standardization and meaningful work is whether we’re empowering people to contribute their own ideas. Empowerment helps people contribute in their own unique way. When people are able to contribute their own unique value, they feel uniquely valued. Are we giving people that opportunity?
In the encouraging words of David Mamet, “Do not internalize the industrial model. You are not one of the myriad of interchangeable pieces, but a unique human being, and if you’ve got something to say, say it, and think well of yourself while you’re learning to say it better.”
How do you encourage people to practice excellence daily?
One of my favorite parts of Disney World — other than the fact that everyone has to be nice to me — is that every detail is always covered. You’re left with little doubt that excellence is a daily practice.
In our love of simplicity, too often we sacrifice the depth that’s necessary to encourage excellence. In the words of Oliver Wendell Holmes, “I would not give a fig for simplicity this side of complexity, but I would give my life for the simplicity on the other side of complexity.”
Until we give people the opportunity to embrace excellence, simplicity is just a short-cut. And few people find meaning in short-cuts.
How do you encourage people to grow?
Are you asking enough of your people?
There’s a limit to the shear quantity of workload that people can support. I’m not suggesting you load people up until they have a mental breakdown.
But are you limiting your expectations to mere productivity? Are you only asking people to come in and punch the clock? Or are you challenging their ability to make that unique contribution?
As Michelangelo famously warned, “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”
The same logic applies to our expectations of others. We do them no favors by asking too little of them. We don’t build meaning by setting a low bar.
In the words of Kara Swisher, “Smart people like to be challenged and they like smart people challenging them.”
You’re smart. Challenge people. I doubt you’ll be disappointed.

Build Meaning. Start Now. Don’t Look Back.

“Of all the virtues we can learn, no trait is more useful, more essential for survival, and more likely to improve the quality of life than the ability to transform adversity into an enjoyable challenge.” — Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
I could tell you that the world is changing. That there will be a time in the near future when companies that can’t bring out the best from every employee will lose their competitive edge and no longer be tenable. But you’ve likely already heard that. And I don’t really know if it’s true.
So instead I’ll just ask, what type of company do you want to be a part of? One where people bring their best selves through the door? Or one where they leave that part in the trunk of their car?
There’s plenty of opportunity for the latter. We just need to get started.

Monday, February 19, 2018

Keep Going When Everyone Is Doubting You.



We’ve all experienced this. We get worked up about a new idea or project and see so much potential in it. Most people, when they get an idea, they are eager to share it with their peers and family. After sharing it, the response they hear is brutal. It’s like a swift kick in the head.
“I don’t think that’s a good idea”
“It might not work out and you’ll be broke”

 “Maybe you should stick to your job and not take the risk”
It’s almost a shocker that the people we assume are going to support us under any circumstance are the first ones to put massive disbelief in our ideas, goals, and dreams.
In this world, it is almost impossible to stay away from judgment, criticism, and all around negativity. Often times, it is the people we are closest to that cause us to lose sight of our goals or give up completely.
If you’re creating anything different than the norm, it’s almost a guarantee that you will be laughed at in some way. People will doubt you from the very beginning of your new project or idea.
To succeed in life you must be able to completely silence any form of judgment or hate, even from your friends and family. The main reason your family is concerned is they don’t want to see you fail or be disappointed. They love you and only want the best for you.
They will think you’re out of your mind for wanting to risk starting a business that might fail, quit your job, or become self-dependent. What they don’t know is that you enjoy the challenge. The risk of making it or losing it all is what makes you feel alive. Nobody can see the fire inside you and it’s up to you to keep it aflame no matter what is happening around you.
For entrepreneurs, the real disappoint comes from not even trying. Being tied down to a 9–5 and working for another individual is a calamity for entrepreneurs.
The number one reason people like to judge your ambitions and goals is that they aren’t doing anything for themselves. They are content with their accomplishments and by putting you down, they appear less like they are doing nothing with their lives.
The truth is, they aren’t capable of doing anything extraordinary so they want to judge anyone else is who is striving to become successful and build something outstanding.
Laughing at someone for wanting to be a bigger person than they are is a one-way ticket to showing you are settling. It’s essentially a way for someone to get praise for only wanting the bare minimum.
“You can’t do this” — “That’s a dumb idea” could be translated to “I can’t do it so I’m going to put you down for doing it”.
When do I tell my significant other? My family? My friends?
The issue with telling people right away is you could face them putting you down and ultimately, cause you to not feel encouraged anymore.
You should feel comfortable telling them right away. That is, only, if you can 100% keep going regardless of what they say about your new idea, business plan, or future aspirations.
Being able to remain focused and silence any doubt is crucial to succeeding in life. If you want your dreams to come true you must believe in yourself when nobody around you does. Have faith in yourself and remember that everyone starts at stage 1. All great businesses, projects, and companies began with an idea from someone who was originally unqualified.
If you care a lot about your families opinion and don’t see yourself being able to move forward after what they say, waiting to tell them could be the best option. There is no loss for telling them after it’s established or it’s become clear that you’re committed to your goal, idea, or project.
There is one thing that will never change. As soon as your idea starts paying the bills, your family will never doubt you or question your actions ever again.
“Family and friends won’t support you until strangers start celebrating you” Brian Street.
Greatness doesn’t go unnoticed and some ambitions you just can’t keep quiet.
Understand that your relatives and family members are always on your side. It may seem like they are against you with some of their statements but it’s only because they simply don’t understand and know what brings you joy in life.
They may have grown up with the idea of the “American Dream” as getting a degree, getting a “high” paying job, getting married, having kids, growing old, and retiring. For some of us, a lot of that sounds like a disaster.
Family members don’t seem to realize that being in the same position 5 years from now will be the ultimate failure and unhappiness for most of us.
Those who listen to their families opinions (If they are not encouraging) will never see a breakthrough. Those who said “I’m going to do this anyway with or without your support” will achieve what they are working towards.
There’s nothing more disappointing than looking in the mirror and seeing the exact same person you were 5 years ago.

Conclusion:

People are going to criticize you REGARDLESS of what you do. Why not at least do something extraordinary? If you take massive action, silence any doubt, have a definite purpose, you are virtually unstoppable.
If there is someone doubting you, criticizing you, laughing at you, or judging your goals — good, that means they are big enough and worth fighting for.
Use doubt as motivation to prove them wrong. Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t capable of doing something incredible with your life.

Thursday, February 1, 2018

10 Truths for Parents of a Young Entrepreneur



If you are a true entrepreneur, then you can certainly relate to this.
As a kid, you were probably diagnosed with ADD. Your teachers were constantly frustrated by your “acting out” or your “inability to follow the rules of the assignment.” You probably didn’t have the best grades. Your creativity was mistaken for disobedience and rebellion.

And above all, you probably didn’t have the smoothest relationship with your parents.

Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of entrepreneurial spirits that pledge their parents were the first to support them in all their endeavors.
Gary Vaynerchuk comes to mind here.
But for a lot of us, it has been a constant struggle since day one to convince those around us that our wildly imaginative ideas are not daydreams — they are very real, very tangible pursuits that, for whatever reason, attract us.
And we believe we can bring them to life.

If you are the parent of an entrepreneurial kid, it can be very easy to see their risk-taking behavior as a negative.

I would know — I was one of them.
I was diagnosed with ADD. I was a straight C student all the way through high school. I was constantly thrown out of class for being “disruptive.” I didn’t have many friends — because I was far too committed to the things I was interested in (like becoming one of the highest ranked World of Warcraft players and gaming bloggers in North America). And I was sent to therapist after therapist with the hopes of understanding why I wasn’t “normal.” Why my head always seemed to be in the clouds and I couldn’t get myself to enjoy studying Geometry.
Obviously, it wasn’t until long after the fact that my own parents realized what it was they were dealing with: an entrepreneurial spirit.

If you are the parent of an entrepreneurial kid, here are 15 things I hope you remember:

1. We can’t change who we are.

We love what we love. We’re fascinated by things. We follow our intuition and we trust ourselves enough to figure things out as we go. It’s not a choice — it’s simply in our DNA.

2. We don’t need your fear, we need your support.

We have enough fears to deal with.
We fear how it’s all going to come together. We fear what the world will think of us. We do not need your fear in us as well.
All we need is you to believe in us.

3. We love the journey.

That’s the whole point of being an entrepreneur.
It’s not about securing the paycheck or ending up with the house and the white picket fence. It’s about the game of it. Building something of value.
That’s why we do it — for the love of the game.

4. We are ok with learning through experience.

As a parent, it’s tough to watch your kid fall.
But we welcome the fall.
We want to fall off our bikes so we learn how to ride them. We want to jump off the cliff so we can learn how to dive. We aren’t book-learners.
We learn better through experience.

5. We hate, more than anything, being told we can’t do something.

The whole point of the game of entrepreneurship is to do what hasn’t been done before.
The more you tell us we can’t do something, the more frustrated we will get (and that isn’t always a healthy thing). Please, don’t tell us it can’t be done. If that’s what we want to explore, then just support our journey.

6. We don’t want to be like Johnny, Martha’s boy, who has a really nice office job selling insurance.

If we wanted that, we would have done that.
But we don’t.

7. We value our freedom over everything.

Creative freedom. Freedom to travel. To explore. To build.
Freedom is what we’re after. Not money, not a title. Not safety.
Freedom.

8. We want to help other people.

This is not a selfish endeavor.
We want to build something that will give back to others, provide opportunity, and in some way leave our mark on the world. That has to count for something, right?

9. We know we can do it.

Something inside of us says, every day, “I know I can do this.”
It might just be curiosity on our part, but so what? We want to know if that voice is real — if we really can “do it.” And we’d rather find out the hard way than wonder “what if” for the rest of our lives.

10. We don’t expect you to understand it, we just hope you’ll respect it.

Entrepreneurship is such a vague of a pursuit in life.
To be honest, we’re not even sure what it means either. All it means is we’re going to figure something out on our own. Maybe we know what that is now, maybe we don’t.
We don’t expect you to understand. We just hope you’ll respect us for staying true to who we are.

Friday, January 26, 2018

The Voice All Creative People Will Understand (and must overcome)



“I am garbage.”
That’s what I thought when I first saw the message.
Feedback had finally come back on my big writing project. Long story short — my client didn’t like where we were going so far.
In the note he said this:
“It doesn’t move me.”
Which, probably, is the worst thing any person who does creative work could ever hear. The proverbial knife to the heart.
What’s worse?
After I read it, the cold realization struck: I had been expecting this.

On some level, every creative person is waiting for someone to tell us we are crap.
We are P.T. Barnum, fooling our consumers until one of them says “hang on, this isn’t quite right.”
At which point, we are relieved to give up the ghost:
“At last. THIS person understands me! Thank God you’ve identified me as the fraud I really am!”
It’s as if every demon from your old gym teacher, every breakup, every doubt, every admonishment from your parents is waiting in the corner of your mind, waiting for you to slip up.
See, I just tried and failed 3 times to spell “admonishment” correctly. A part of me wondered if a real writer would have that problem.
Blah.

So what to do?
Hustle your way past it?
I’ve tried that before. The string always snaps.
Pretend the voice doesn’t exist?
HA! Maybe I will also remove one of my fingers.
Choose a different career or calling?
I wish. The fact of the matter is I simply cannot. Were I to choose a management career at Burger King, I would be writing tweets on napkins, scribbling poems on packets of ketchup, and daydreaming during cleanup hour.
Instead, I like to think of what artist Sol Lewitt told a sculptor Eva Hesse, when she was struggling with her work, with feelings of doubt and disgrace, of angst and agony.
“Maybe you need your agony to accomplish what you do.”

Art will never be a simple task. Its very nature demands a new effort from you — not once, not twice, but EVERY time.
You die EVERY time.
You challenge assumptions EVERY time.
You hear the voice EVERY time.
You become a new person EVERY time.
(This is what happens if you’re doing it right)
I can’t pretend your journey is going to get easier.
All I can do is say this:
I understand. I feel it too.

There’s another line in Sol Lewitt’s letter. It goes like this:
“Maybe you need your agony to accomplish what you do.
“But it is painful, I know.”
Lewitt is well known in the art world. Among other things, he had success in photography, building sculptures, drawing on walls, and architecture. His work is in museum. Perhaps the strongest testament to his legacy is this — he is dead, and we am still talking about him.
Despite all that, he still felt the voice. He knew what it was like to feel less than enough.
And that makes me a little less lonely.
Much love,

Sunday, January 21, 2018

9 Valuable Lessons I Learned in the Real World (and Not in School)



Let me tell you a story:

When I was in the 3rd grade, we had to write a paragraph about something we loved, and then draw a picture in the box above it.
We were first asked to draw and write in pencil, and then once the teacher had checked our work, we were supposed to carefully go over each word in the paragraph with a black pen, creating the finished product.
When I started going over the words with my black pen, I outlined the first word of the paragraph, and then the second, and then I thought it would be fun to outline the last word of my story, and then some words in the middle — just sort of outlining the letters I was drawn to next, not following any sort of rigid path.
My teacher walked over and said, “Cole? How’s it coming?”
I held up my piece of paper to show her how far I’d gotten — I was very proud of my work.
She scrunched her eyebrows, crossed her arms and asked, “Why aren’t you going over the words in order?”
A bit confused by her question, I said, very honestly, “They’re all going to be colored in at the end. Why does it matter how I get there?”
She called home that night and told my parents I had a learning disability.

My experience with formal education was, shall we say, less than impressive.

I was a straight C student all the way up through high school. I was a horrible test-taker. I didn’t do very well on my ACT. I was constantly asked to leave class because the questions I would ask were so rudimentary that my teachers thought I was mocking them — when really (at least, most of the time…) I just had trouble following the lesson.

Not everyone learns the same way.

And I believe a significant portion of my adolescence was wasted by a school system that tried to wedge me into a tiny circle on a Scranton sheet.
I’m not dumb.
I’ve been playing Mozart and Beethoven on the piano since I was seven years old. I’ve won writing contests and debate competitions. I am about to publish my first book. I just learn better by getting my hands dirty — not sitting in a fake-marble desk chair listening to a monotone teacher in front of a whiteboard.
Now, I’ll be the first to admit I definitely did not give school everything I had — I gave up on school at a very early age. Mostly because I felt like school gave up on me.
School never asked, “How do you learn?” Instead, school told me how I should learn — and when it didn’t work, school called me Dumb.
Well, here are 9 things school didn’t teach me that I learned on my own:

1. There Are No Rules.

The people who enforce the rules (creatively speaking here) are the people who don’t have the confidence or the belief that the world is an easel and everyone has a paintbrush.

2. Titles Are Crippling, Not “The Goal”.

All those kids that got straight As, went to the Ivy League school of their choice, got the fancy title at the fancy company… They can keep it.
Titles are crippling.
Titles encourage you to relax, and let your title speak for you — instead of your skill and knowledge earning you other people’s respect.
But when push comes to shove, it’s the people who have gotten their hands dirty in the trenches you want on your team. Not the ones with a fancy title in front of their names.

3. There Is No “1 Right Way” To Do Anything.

This is a massive disservice school teaches kids — that there is a “right” way and a “wrong” way.
False. There are a million ways.
And the name of the game isn’t to do it any one particular way. It’s to understand which one works the best for YOU, and will allow you to maximize your strengths.

4. HOW Is More Important Than WHAT.

HOW you do something is far more important than WHAT you do.
In every industry, there are those who do things with honor, integrity, discipline, passion, and heart, and there are those who do so with malicious intent, or a lack of sincerity, etc.
Think about the people who respect or look up to. You look up to them because of HOW they approach what they do, not WHAT they do.

5. Acceptance Is Overrated.

Remember all those class projects you had to do?
Remember all the times you were told to agree with your classmates for the sake of learning how to ‘work well with others’ ?
That cultivates a bad habit of suppressing your own unique voice and the great debates that spark truly meaningful ideas.
Being accepted is overrated — and the real world taught me that the hard way.

6. Learning How To Learn Is What’s Important.

Reiterating the point here, school would be so much more beneficial if it taught students HOW to learn — not WHAT to learn.
What good is memorizing chemistry equations if you don’t fundamentally understand the process of learning?
So many kids struggle as soon as they get out of school because they don’t have anyone telling them anymore, “Here, learn this next.”
They lack direction — because they were never taught the art of learning.

7. Your Passion Is Not A Waste Of Time.

School (and society at large) wants us to believe that there are acceptable hobbies and hobbies that are a waste of time. It’s the reason the first departments to go are always art or music related.
But what you love is NEVER a waste of time. You will always learn more from an interest pulled at from your heart than a pursuit dangled in front of your head.

8. “Success” Does Not Have One Definition.

School likes to measure things — usually in the form of a letter grade beside each subject of study.
It inherently defines “success” as “better” or “higher” or “more.” But that’s just not true. “Success” could mean honest expression, or it could mean presence, or it could mean facing a challenge, failing, and learning a valuable lesson.
Success comes in many different forms. It’s not always about getting the “A.”

9. It’s OK To Be Different.

And finally, the most important one of them all: Who you are is already good enough.
School has this funny way of making kids that are “different” feel extra-different, extra-weird, extra-not-normal. But you know what? Get out into the real world, and the most valuable thing you could possibly have is to be “different.”
Everybody wants to stand out. Everybody wants something that’s going to set them apart.
You have what everybody wants: Remember that.

Thanks for reading! :)