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I
didn’t have any sort of connection with the man sadly. I went though,
because it meant something to my Dad. I didn’t even go up to my
grandfather’s body to pay last respects.
I feel horrible for that in hindsight.
Even though the whole ordeal meant nothing to me, something happened at that funeral that I’ll always remember.
Some
man who wasn’t related to me in any way got up to speak about my
grandfather. He started slow, but then told a funny story about a time
when Mr. Kuegler played with him and his friends one afternoon.
He
said they were all acting like superheroes, or something, and that my
grandfather was the “bad guy” and kept trying to tie him and his friends
to a chair to “defeat” them.
But my grandfather was witty.
He
didn’t tie a knot at all with the ropes, but made it seem jussttt tight
enough to give the boys a little resistance/belief that they actually
did something to escape.
The man said that, since he was the “hulk,” he busted through the ropes every time and saved everybody else.
He
said he loved those afternoons, and that my grandfather would oblige
everybody and really spend some quality time making their dreams of
being superheroes a reality.
As
he got to the end of the story his eyes filled with tears. And then
mine did. And then he didn’t say much more and sat down in his chair.
I didn’t know who that guy was — I still don’t — but I’ll always remember that story.
The Time My Article Hit The Front Page of The Huffington Post
It was 4 AM in San Francisco.
I got back at 1 AM, but I couldn’t sleep a wink.
A
date I had with somebody went awry (what a great word), and I felt
terrible about it. I didn’t feel understood; I felt like life wasn’t
fair.
I wanted to take my brain out and throw it across the room, but sadly that would’ve killed me (making my situation even worse).
Then I thought about writing, remembering my laptop was two feet away, and I begrudgingly began typing at 4 AM.
I hit “publish” one hour later.
It went viral by the time I woke up at 9 AM, hitting the front page of the Huffington Post and everything.
Getting into the right mindset to create your best content of all time, however, IS.
It’s excruciatingly hard.
That’s
because not only do you have to be in the right mindset to tear through
a page, you also have to have something crippling happen to you.
Like the death of a loved one, or an existential crisis, or a moment where your best friend won’t even stick up for you.
All
of these moments are tough. They’re brutal. They dramatically throw
your world off-kilter and put your mind into some sort of “survival”
mode.
If you think about it, all of these moments end in a safety net getting ripped out from under you.
You
can’t replace a loved one. You can’t replace a best friend’s support.
You can’t easily revert back to the comfort you felt BEFORE an
existential crisis.
In short, things sort of need to happen to you in order to write something truly, truly profound.
To
be clear, you can write viral articles without having a loved one pass
away. You can write a best-selling book without having a loved one pass
away.
I’m not saying these things need to happen to write something good.
What I’m saying is, things similar to this need to happen for you to write the best words you’ve ever put on paper.
I’ll stand by that until I die.
And
if your “best” isn’t associated with any crippling event RIGHT NOW, you
simply haven’t lived long enough/tried hard enough to express what you
feel in these life-changing moments.
You need to try.
Not for the views, or the fans, or being remembered.
You need to try because your soul deserves to express itself.
There’s
a very particular song your heart sings in moments of dramatic
change — you owe it to yourself to put that feeling on paper.
It
will be your finest hour, and more importantly it will help you cope in
ways a conversation with a counselor, a best friend, or a parent
couldn’t replicate.
How A Disney Screenwriter Created A Scene I’ll Remember Forever
One
of the coolest things that ever happened to me was getting the
opportunity to interview Rob Edwards, the guy who wrote Disney’s Treasure Planet and Princess and The Frog.
In
“Treasure Planet,” Rob wrote a scene where a cyborg chef comforts the
main character and tells him, as well as he can, that he loves him.
It’s a scene I’ll never forget, and I always wanted to know the story behind it — how it was written and everything.
Rob told me it was the most difficult thing he’s ever had to write, and that he basically cried the entire time writing it.
Then he showed it to somebody and they both cried reading it.
When’s the last time something you wrote made YOU cry?
More
importantly, when’s the last time you had the guts to face an emotional
topic, begin writing about it, and play a game of literary chicken with
your heart when you’re five seconds away from publishing it?
It’s
been a long time for me personally. It’s hard to push yourself to these
extremes as a creative person, but oddly enough these extremes are
where we produce our best work.
Stop Being Scared Of What Everybody Is Going To Think About You
Perfect writing is often grounded in an act of defiance.
“Oh, I can’t talk about this? F*ck you.”
Exhibit A: The Declaration of Independence.
There’s a lot of things we as creatives can defy:
Caring about the opinions of others.
Our comfort zones.
Social norms.
Writing
about something that seems taboo/is terrifying to publish can actually
pull the best content we’ve ever written out of our souls.
When things get pent up, it’s only natural we have to blow off some steam at some point.
The
same is true for writing. Topics that slowly eat at our soul are the
ones we most need to write about. Oddly enough they’re the ones that
also do the best because we’re honestly, unequivocally inspired to
FINALLY write about them and let loose.
That’s a great recipe for writing something worth remembering.
The Best Thing I Ever Wrote
My
best work will never be published anywhere online. It lives on the last
page of a journal I filled out during an internship at Disney.
On that program I made lifelong friends, worked for the best company on the planet, and got to go to Disney whenever I wanted.
It was easily the best experience I’ve ever had.
On
my last day in the airport I decided to fill out that last page. I knew
I was leaving Orlando, a beautiful place filled with so much magic in
places you’d never expect.
I wrote about my friends. I wrote about how I was scared to go home. I wrote about why I loved the person I was writing to.
I cried in the middle of the airport.
Don’t be afraid to show your emotions.
I waited until the last day because I knew my emotions would run me over like a bulldozer.
Be
on the lookout for a writing window. Good writing can be created
whenever, but perfect writing can only be created once in a blue moon.
I sat in an airport, as a man, writing in a diary.
F*ck
your norms. Say that as many times as it takes. Something truly worth
remembering can’t be created/shown while holding on to your comfort
zone.
I
hope you all experience this perfect storm one day. When it comes, give
yourself to it and don’t ask any questions. It doesn’t matter what time
it is, where you are, or who you’re with.
It
is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most
intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to
change -Charles Darwin
Charles Darwin theory states, 'Survival of the Fittest’, which means that the fit survives till the end.
If we do not adapt changes prevailing in our life, we might not be able to survive Irrespective of our HIGH IQ and EQ…
Adaptability
is the ability of an individual to respond to his changing environment,
it shows the ability to learn & improve from experiences.
By
being adaptable, we can easily survive, adopt new changes, learn new
skills, gain practical knowledge, and be successful in our work. In many
organizations, logic is the only rule, where emotions does not have any role to play….
Adaptive quotient(AQ) individual can offer a practical path to solving problems, they have the capacity to handle changes and are open to new ideas. They take on new challenges at a shorter notice and deal with changing priorities.
But if, an individual is intellectually intelligent it means, his/her
knowledge is limited to only a particular part of his/her skill. It’s
not a complete measure of a person’s worth. It indicates only one
limited type of ability.
I’m ready to play a bet …that adaptability quotient (AQ) will soon become the primaryindicator of success, with IQ and EQ both taking a backseat to how quickly we’re able to keep up with constant changing world.
EQ & IQ are important, but it’s only two legs of the stool. What I Learnt by Reading Books of great People is both IQ and EQ are not fixed properties, but rather can be developed through dedication and hard work. I guess…AQ
works similarly — some of us are born with higher AQ potential, but
each of us can work to alter it over the lifetime. We can see example
around us like We all have that friend who dislikes changes and another
friend who thrives on the new experiences. This leads me to suspect that
we are already subliminally aware that AQ exists
and that it has variance, but we’re not talking about it. Furthermore,
we don’t have a hardcore way to test or improve it.
The reason I say So is because when I used Google to search for “adaptability quotient” …. I received short Inc article written by the leader of a change-management consulting firm, along with a 2011 Harvard Business Review article titled “Adaptability: The New Competitive Advantage” (worth a read). Beyond those, other are useless…
Adaptation
gives an opportunity to grow. It gives us more experience. We are
living in the age of technology, where everything is changing. It does
not matter how much we try to get used to things, every new day will
bring a new challenge.
Creative Destruction
According to Why Nations Fail by
Daron Acemoglu and James Robinson the reason nations fail or succeed is
political institutions. They theorize that there are two kinds — “extractive” institutions in which a “small” group of individuals do their best to exploit the rest of the population, and “inclusive” institutions in which “many” people are included in the process of governing.
The reason that inclusive states are far more successful than extractive ones is Creative Destruction. It
means challenging vested interests to develop a better way of doing
things. It means replacing the old with the new, new sectors attract
resources from old ones, new firms takes business from established ones,
new technologies make existing skills and machines obsolete.
Here is a Real Life Example for Creative Destruction… Fortune 500 firms 1955 v. 2016: Only 12% remain, thanks to the creative destruction that fuels economic prosperity
First case where Apple was designing iPhone and Second case where Nokia was selling half a billion phones each year.
Google bought
a company called Android and announced an Open Handset Alliance, a
grouping of industry players who would come together to build an open
source OS for smartphones. Nokia was invited to join but refused to
demean itself.
Soon after Apple launched an Apps Store that began to take off, attracting tens of thousands of developers, and then customers.
Within two years of these events Nokia was already in crisis. In
2007, Nokia had a market capitalization of €110 billion; by May 2012
this had fallen to €14.8 billion. Those figures illustrate the extent of
the decline over 5 years, years in which Apple and Android came to
dominate smartphones.Nokia/Symbian also launched an Apps Store, Horizon,
now happily forgotten, and after six months it had the sum total of 60
apps in it.
And
Nokia launched its own Apps and Content store – Ovi, in 2009. But Nokia
had no real platform experience to compare with Apple’s. The platform
was shaky and it tried to launch simultaneously in 35 countries –
because that’s what dominant players do. It was a disaster and the tech
press called it out as such. Nokia was faced with a gale of criticism
for the first time.
2) RYAN DAHL— Creator of Node.js and Now a AI & ML Researcher at Google Brain
Ryan Presenting the Original Node.js Paper
Dahl grew up in San Diego, California. His mother got an Apple 2C when he was six years old, one of his first experiences with technology. Ryan attended community college in San Diego and later transferred into UCSD where he studied mathematics. He went on to attend grad school for Mathematics at the University of Rochester where he studied algebraic topology, which he once found “very abstract and beautiful” for a couple of years but later got bored of it because “it was not so applicable to real life.”
Once he realized that he did not want to be amathematician for the rest of his life, he dropped out of the PhD program and bought a one-way ticket to South America and lived there for a year, where he found a job as a web developer. He worked on a Ruby on Rails website for a snowboard company
Ryan Got into JavaScript Development around 2007–2008 , The Hottest topic for the season during that time for JavaScript plus ASync I/O.
Coming From a Non Software Background , It was Difficult for Him to
achieve Wonders in Computer science.. He Taught Himself Every bit of
Programming and Slowly and Steadily Developed a Programming Language
Named Node.jswhich is one of the Most Popular Programming Languages.
Image Courtesy : indeed.com
Ryan
Did not Stop , After Spending Years with the Node Community , He
Decided to Step away from the Node Project and Join The AI & ML
Revolution. He got into Google as a Software Engineer and Started
Working on Artificial Intelligence and Machine Learning .
This is Inspiring as Ryan being a Non Computer science grad Adapted to Industry Trends to gain Success…
This
is an Example of How People Have adapted to changes even if Their
Previous Background Did not Support that.This is an Example of HIGH AQ.
The New York Times published a fascinating article
last week on Robots and How Sweden Differ on thier Views.One of the
Swedes interviewed is Mika Perrson, a remote mine operator testing
self-driving vehicles to replace truck drivers.Below is the Link :-
“Mr.
Persson, 35, sits in front of four computer screens, one displaying the
loader he steers as it lifts freshly blasted rock containing silver,
zinc and lead. If he were down in the mine shaft operating the loader
manually, he would be inhaling dust and exhaust fumes. Instead, he
reclines in an office chair while using a joystick to control the
machine.” — New York Times
Persson
and the nation on the whole do not fear the automation of existing jobs
because of strong social safety nets — the government provides health
care and free education, plus employers finance extensive job training
programs.
According to the Swedish minister for employment and integration, “The jobs disappear, and then we train people for new jobs. We won’t protect jobs. But we will protect workers” (NYT). Furthermore, unions in Sweden “generally embrace automation as a competitive advantage that makes jobs more secure” (NYT). I think Sweden would receive an extraordinarily high AQ score.
Contrast
Sweden with the Rest of the World, however, and I become deeply
concerned about us. In Most of the countries, the healthcare system is
dependent on our employers, so “losing
a job can trigger a descent to catastrophic depths. It makes workers
reluctant to leave jobs to forge potentially more lucrative careers.”.
With this mindset, it’s no wonder that 80% of “Americans were ‘worried’ about a future in which robots and computers substitute for humans”(Pew Research survey in the NYT) as compared to the “80% of Swedish Population that express positive views about robots and artificial intelligence, according to a survey this year by the European Commission” (NYT).
Conclusion
Above
Examples are enough to convince me that we might be well on our way
toward a future High AQ being the Most important Factor :-
In a macro sense, I think Three things are likely to happen:
We will certainly agree that adaptability is an important indicator for future success and we need a metric for it — AQ.
A sizable industry will emerge to boost our AQ ..
A good Mix of EQ , IQ and AQ is Required for Long Term Success.
Yesterday
I got a phone call from a client, whom I built a Time Tracking system
for calculating the salaries of his ~800 employees.
Joe: Hi Shuki. Me: Hi Joe. Joe: Remember the app you built me the other day? Me: Of course. Joe: Can you build me an option to login as any user from my Admin panel? Me: Hmm. May I ask why? Joe: For QA testing, anyways there is no sensitive data. Me: I dunno. Joe: Common, you’ll find a way. Me: I’ll try.
In
the following post, I will follow my path to a solution, with the ideas
that came to my mind, and the problems with each of them, and in the
end I will share the final solution I came up with.
My first thought was that on the users page in the Admin panel, clicking any username will open a new window, and login as that user.
The problem:
My
site uses cookies to keep the user logged in, so if the Admin logs in
as a user, his cookies will be replaced, and he will have to re-login as
an Admin.
Now that I knew what I needed, I texted the DevHelps whatsapp group, where I got a quick and efficient solution.
If
you want to save parameters on the window, and can’t use cookies
because you want each window to have it’s own parameters, just use window.name — Bnaya Peretz.
So My final Solution Has the following steps.
On page loading check for a token saved in the window.name object, if it exists, auto-login. Otherwise continue to login page.
After successful login, save the token to window.name for reloading.
When the admin, clicks on a username, open a new window named with that user’s token, which will auto login as the user.
In the Admin panel display a popup to reload the page, and since window.name has the Admin’s token reloading will auto login as Admin.
‘To
do’ lists can be deadening and demotivating. We all have things we have
to do and some of those things are routine and don’t set the world on
fire. But all too often we allow those things to take far too much time
and energy. So what can we do to transform ‘to do’ lists so we don’t get
stuck spending most of our time on the small, time-consuming stuff?
1. Think about your use of time
A
great journalling exercise I did recently was to make a huge list of
all the ways I spend my time. Then I divided the list into three groups:
essential tasks that use my skills and are enjoyable (B)
the core goals that I’m most passionate about (A)
For
me, the category C activities are things like emails and routine admin.
This includes organising book launches, doing business accounts, buying
train tickets etc.
I
estimated I was spending around 40% of my time on category C
activities. With another 40% on work, that left 20% of my time for
family, relaxation, writing … How can core goals and values be so
squeezed and thrive? Of course, they can’t. So the questions then
became, what could I eliminate? What could I automate or streamline? And
what could I delegate?
One
of the things I noticed was that I was repeating the same information
to lots of people in serial emails. I set about writing a series of
information sheets for authors. These covered what to expect during the
publishing process, information for launches etc.
They are all online and available for authors to download on a resource page.
We
added an invaluable office manager to our team at Cinnamon Press. We
employed a virtual assistant to do a routine task uploading competition
details. And I started time blocking so that emails are all answered
once a day. I batched other admin too, so I’m not wasting time going
back and forth between different types of activity.
My
category B is either work-related (editing and mentoring, for example).
Category B activities are harder to limit in some ways as they are more
essential and more enjoyable.
I
love my work, but I don’t want to be co-terminus with it. Having
supportive authors who help with these tasks makes a huge difference. I
gain a lot from editing the work of others, but I’m also grateful to
have trusted editors to delegate part of the process to.
I
get huge satisfaction from teaching and mentoring, but sharing the load
is also rewarding. I have no desire to cut the category B activities
from my timetable, but a team can achieve much more than an individual.
Once again, time-blocking enables me edit and mentor when I’m most
focussed.
And
I’m learning to say no. Loving my work does not mean I have to take on
more and more until it overwhelms me. Greg McKeown asks:
Have
you ever said yes when you meant no, simply to avoid conflict or
friction? … the very thought of saying no brings us physical discomfort.
We feel guilty. We don’t want to let someone down. … But these emotions
muddle our clarity. They distract us from the reality of the fact that
either we can say no and regret it for a few minutes or say yes and
regret it for days, weeks, months or even years.
We
all have the same amount of time each day, but how we use it makes the
difference. We can spend a bigger percentage of our time on the
important things if:
we eliminate non essential activities (no one needs to be available to a phone or messages every minute of the day)
streamline and/or delegate some of the routine activities
use blocks of time for different types of activity so you focus on the important things first and one task at a time
build a team to share the more essential and rewarding work
don’t imagine we can do it all and learn to say no
These
strategies have helped me shift from spending 40% of my time on the
routine ‘to do’ list to around 20% and I aim to get that down further
this year.
This
frees much more time for editing and mentoring, but also for my
category A activities. These include writing, travel, learning, family
time and relaxation.
2. Think about why certain activities are important to you
We
all have different goals, different category A activities that are more
‘quest’ than ‘to do’. It’s sad that the pace of life often relegates
these to the ‘add-ons’ that we hardly have any time for. But the more
passionate we are about these things, the less we will find excuses for
not doing them.
As I said in recent post:
Your goals should be your passion and, if they are, then it’s no longer a matter of forcing yourself on by dogged willpower.
It helps to know why we we value certain activities over others. This is what Benjamin Hardy advises:
Think about what it is you want, and ask yourself this simple question:
What about ___________ is important to me?
If your goal is to work from home, then ask yourself the question:
What about “working from home” is important to me?
Your answer might be something like, “to have a more flexible schedule.”
You then put THAT into the previous question.
It’s good to go at least 7-questions deep into this exercise.
Don’t overthink it. Let the answers come and move on and you’ll find your thinking is much clearer than you imagined.
For me:
Writing
is the most meaningful and transformative activity I undertake. It’s
fundamental to how I reflecting on life and connect with others.
Becoming a different story is my life’s work.
Travel puts me in unfamiliar places and situations. This in turn stimulates creativity, writing, thought and deeper work.
Family (including
an extended family of close friends) makes my world make sense. These
are the people who teach me to live from abundance rather than scarcity.
These are the people who confirm for my that generosity is the key
virtue.
Keeping fit
facilitates other goals. I’m less than 5 feet tall and have a slow
metabolism so to maintain my energy I need to be fit, of moderate
weight, flexible and well-nourished. It’s about valuing my most basic
resource: myself, so that I can give.
Personal development
is also foundational to my goals. When my daily rituals, habits,
learning, attention to values and relaxation are in harmony, the rest
follows.
If
we are clear about what matters most and why these things matter, we
are more likely to live life as an exciting quest rather than a tedious
to do list.
3. Think about building your life on values rather than ‘oughts’
When
we face a long list of things we have to do, resistance sets in. Life
becomes drudgery sustained by a diminishing supply of willpower. Even if
we manage to achieve everything on the list, we’re not likely to take
much pleasure of pride from it.
When
we manage our time by eliminating, streamlining, delegating, sharing,
time blocking and saying no, we find we have ‘more time’.
When we know what we are passionate about and why, we release energy that is much more effective than willpower.
And
when we act from our deepest values rather than ‘oughts’ imposed on us
from outside, then this energy increases beyond our imagining.
Living
from values gives us this bigger vision. Living from values comes from
intrinsic motivation rather than from something imposed on us.
As
with goals, we will each have different value sets. But something I’ve
found useful is to use a system attributed to Benjamin Franklin. He
decided on thirteen key virtues and each week of the year would focus on
one of them so that over the year he’d concentrate on each value four
times.
I’ve
written my values into a tiny book (less than two inches square) that I
can carry with me. The first two for me are generosity and abundance.
It was fascinating to spend time journalling to reach my list of
thirteen. And starting each day thinking about how I can show that value
in my life is much more motivating than starting the day thinking about
a to do list. It doesn’t mean that there are no routine jobs to do, but
it keep them in perspective.
4. Think about taking time out
When
you know how you want to live and why; when you know the values your
life rests on, life becomes a quest rather than a mundane list of
demands on your time. This is exhilarating and motivating and it demands
that we redirect our energy to what matters to us. How do we do that?
i. We need to take space to think
I’m currently rereading Virginia Woolf’s A Room of One’s Own—
it’s an important text and the idea that we need a dedicated space in
which to write is essential. Over the last week I’ve set up a dedicated
writing room in which to work. It has 23 years of past journals, all the
books I’ve bought but still need to read, and important texts that have
informed my current thinking. It’s a place I can go to think or write.
If you can’t take a whole room, find a desk, a corner, any space that
you can call your own and where you can think and write.
ii. We need to create a mindset that helps us to focus
Whatever
your daily commitments, journalling morning and evening can make all
the difference. Five minutes of writing about how you envisage your
future. Five minutes of reflecting on how you have used your time, lived
your ‘why’ or values, makes an enormous impact on how you see the world
and interact with it. Take time every day to affirm and reflect and
watch your world change.
Environment is crucial to our perspective and when we take control of it, things happen.,
iii. We need time in other environments
This
is why travel is so important to me. It places me in unfamiliar places
and stimulates creativity, writing, thought and deeper work. If you
can’t leave the country, go for a long walk; swap houses with a friend
for a week. Do something that shifts your perspective and in the
unfamiliar situation you will find yourself having new thoughts.
In short
If
you want your life to be a quest rather than a mere ‘to do’ list; and
want to make a difference, there are a few simple strategies:
think about your use of time — you have as much time as anyone else and it’s up to you how you use it.
think about why certain activities are important to you — dig deep until you find what matters to you.
think about your values and build your life around intrinsic motivation, not what someone says you ‘ought’ to do.
think
about taking time out, whether in daily journalling or unfamiliar
environments that challenge you to adopt new perspectives.
When you begin to make these changes you’ll find life is no longer a mundane to do list, but a quest of your own making. Enjoy!
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There
is no word to describe how important travelling is in my life, or how
it has transformed me, shaped my perspective and influenced life
decisions. I met people who left beautiful traces in my life, some
changed my life for the better.
Have
you ever wondered — what was in your mind before you start a journey?
How did you mentally and physically prepare for an unknown adventure?
What were you seeking for?
When
my whole life was contained in a backpack, when I only had space for
bare minimum of life, that was when I learned to appreciate the richness
life has to offer.
1. Living with minimal need is a life skill
Without
much possessions, every little thing in life carried big weight. During
Annapurma Basecamp trek in Nepal, life was simple and beautiful when I
woke up every day with the sole purpose of reaching the top. I
remembered looking forward to every break to have a small bite of
chocolate. On the mountain, something as simple as a bowl of piping hot
noodle brought me tremendous joy.
Knowing how little I need to feel contented, I became more confident to take risk in carving my path.
2. Embrace diversities
When
I met a British Nigerian and a German Phillipino in Vietnam, even
though we had different skin colour and cultural background, we spent 2
days together traveling, exchanging stories about where we come from,
why we travel, and our plans after the journey.
When
the world map in my heart expanded, I found that people are not much
different on the inside. We were all on the same journey, sharing the
same quest to explore the best of life.
3. Learn to trust
Traveling
was a humbling experience to learn how to empathize, understand, and
keep my ego in check at times when I needed help the most. I was often
touched by goodness in people when they offered kindness without any
expectation in return.
Maybe
I was lucky, or maybe people were generally kind in nature, things
always turned out fine even though I was told that I trusted people too
easily. It was the bits and pieces of kindness I received that reminded
me of the beauty of lives.
4. I have full mastery of my life
In
all my backpacking journey, I did not have a rigid itinerary. I loved
being able to wake up and walk out without expectation of the day, fully
embracing new people, places and experience. I got to reinvent my
identity when I met new people, dared myself to try new thing, trusted
my guts to decide the next move.
It was an amazing experience to be consciously observing how things unfold with series of choices along the way.
When I returned, I brought that sense of control back with me, knowing that I am the master of my life.
5. Self-empowerment
Every time I came back from a solo journey, I felt like a returning soldier knowing that I had power to handle life.
I
learned something new about myself every time I told stories and shared
experiences. These experiences were like wine that tastes better as it
ages.
A
part of me prided myself for having courage to travel alone, but the
journey mattered because of the lives I touched and the world I saw.
6. Embrace endless possibilities in life
The
more I travelled, the more I experienced, the more I felt, I realised
that there were many ways of life, and I knew how easy it was to start a
new life. The problems that troubled me before the journey started
often became smaller as my world expanded.
I
began to see things differently and make life decisions with new
perspective. I knew how big the world is and how small my problems are.
What if I lost my job tomorrow? What if I didn’t get what I want? There is still a big world out there full of possibilities.
I come alive when I wander
I found myself most alive when I was travelling. I travelled when I felt lost, when I didn’t know what I want to do in life.
When
I hit the road, every day was a new day; everything gave me a sense of
wonderment. I sat in ancient temples reminiscing lives passing through
it. I watched magnificent sunset on sand dune and realised how small
human being appeared under the sun. I felt love flowing through me when I
gazed into blue sky in a paddy field.
In those moments, there were no past or future, there was only now.
Life would just slip if I was not aware that every moment is life. It is finite, it is now.