Excuses will cripple your happiness and Success
Excuses are mental monsters that give a false sense of positive reassurance. And yet they are used by millions of people almost every day of our life.
You
know that you want to start working on a ‘certain’ project or that you
should move on to another stage in your life but as soon as you mount up
the courage to do so- these monsters that wander in your mind find a
way to delay your decision making process and keep you wondering in the
same space, your comfort zone.
Sound familiar?
Making
excuses and avoiding what you should be doing to get ahead in life can
kill your ability to build an abundance of wealth and find your purpose
in life.
If
you use excuses to stop you from facing your fears such as fear of
rejection or fear of making mistakes then you will hinder you
possibility of success and thus remain stagnant.
They
are a lot of ways that the habit of making excuses have hurt you and
you may not even know it. It is true that the level of success that you
achieve will be influenced by the amount of excuses you have made.
Take a look at some ways your excuses affect your life negatively.
They are stopping you from taking opportunities right in front of you
Excuses make us blind to what might even be right in front us.
Instead
of seeing what we have to do right to capitalize on an opportunity, the
habit of making excuses will make you focus only the negative side, it
will make you see what you are lacking and what will make it okay for
you not going for your opportunities instead, and this will give you a
way to back out of the challenge.
Imagine
if Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak said that in order for them to start a
company they needed an office to start in First and not just a garage.
We would not even have Apple today. And if Bill Gates had said the same
then maybe you would not even be reading this.
They
all had to overcome every negative excuse that they could use in order
to create their own opportunities that led them to massive success.
What
you don’t need is an excuse for why you don’t have opportunities, what
you need to do is open your eyes and see the opportunities in front of
you and the ones you can make for yourself.
Don’t let excuses keep you from reaching your highest potential and grabbing your opportunities.
They will destroy your self confidence
You may have noticed that most excuses come in form of self-doubt.
Self-doubt is one of the major causes of failure.
Think
about it. How many times have you said you can’t do something before
even trying it first? How many possible great friendships have you
shunned away from because you thought that if you reached out to them,
they won’t like you? How many jobs have you not even applied for because
you said you were not qualified enough? Just how many times have you
said the words ‘I can’t?’
Each time you do that you doubt yourself and that will cripple your confidence and leave you feeling hopeless.
You can choose to overcome your doubt. Actually, you MUST learn to overcome it.
That
is because no matter the goal, you will always face some type of
adversity or obstacle. And if you always give excuses that leave you
doubting yourself you really won’t achieve much.
They will shatter any chances you had of success
Think about the successful people you look up to, better yet take the time to study them.
They don’t give excuses.
They
believe that they are responsible for their success and failures and
use very little excuses to hide their negative habits or behaviors.
On
the other hand the unsuccessful individual will always find a way to
blame their failures on someone else or on something else.
This in turn makes them not capable of learning from their failures and using the lesson to adjust their actions accordingly.
They
do this because they often tend to mistakenly believe that an excuse
will protect them emotionally from embarrassment, uncertainty, and
accountability. But actually, what excuses do is just the opposite,
making them feel anxious, inadequate, guilty, and weak.
These
negative emotions have the effect of holding them back from realizing
their potential, recognizing opportunities, and utilizing their unique
talents and skills.
Placing
blame on external circumstances instead of accepting responsibility for
an internal problem will always cripple your success.
They stop us from having the relationships we deserve
Have you ever met someone who told you that you can’t do something just because they can’t do it for some reason?
They
simply tried to ruin your chances of success because theirs is not
working out. They have used so many excuses that prevent them from
trying and now they want you to use them as well. Well most people
really don’t like hanging out with such. And if we are like that we will
lose out on some good friendships.
Similarly
if we have negative habits that hurt other people and we constantly
make excuses for them instead of trying to change them, other people may
very well give up on us and we will also lose out on great friendships.
Another way people lose out on good relationships is by using the excuse of ‘waiting’. Waiting for ‘the love of their life’ or waiting to ‘find love’.
Contrary to movies, songs and novels if all we do is wait for someone
to magically walk in, we may wait for the rest of your lives. If we want
to find love we have to make ourselves available by talking to people,
using chat sites e.t.c
Final thoughts…
Every time you give an excuse, it cripples you and kills your chances of success.
If
you want to improve any area of life, stop making excuses and blaming
others and instead take responsibility for your life and actions and go
forward boldly and take charge.
If
you continually blame others for your failures then you will not learn
much from your failures. You will not see how unproductive habits or
hear how unproductive thoughts or decisions may have led to your
failure.
You
need to stop making excuses and start taking take responsibility for
your actions, thoughts and behaviors. Only then will you make progress
towards your happiness and success.
