Steps to Your Most Empowered Self
“I think luck falls on not just the brave but also the ones who believe they belong there.” — Novak Djokovic, winner of 12 Grand Slams.
To
be brave, means to have courage. To have courage, means to have
confidence. And confidence means to have belief in yourself. It’s not
those who can get the laws of the universe to bend around them, it’s
those who believe, deep down, in the possibility for their lives, in the
ultimate possible fate for their life which seems so close and clear in
their heart.
So how do you get there? To see so clearly the ultimate possibility of your life when you live in courage and not fear?
You get there by empowering your authentic self.
By
getting to know who and what you are, what beliefs come from your
heart, and what beliefs you inherited, were taught, or created to
protect yourself from being uncomfortable. And to do that, we need a
mediator. One who can hear our story, reflect back to us what we say and
what we believe so we can view our own mental stories outside our heads
and through someone else’s eyes.
It’s
only then that you can begin to feel the difference between what is
true in your heart, in your most divine expression of who you are,
versus who you try to become for approval, acceptance and love. You get
distance from the stories and they become less powerful, so the weight
over your heart can be lifted and you can begin to let out the truth it
has to tell.
And,
we are so scared of our best selves. It’s like, why even dig deeper, we
aren’t even sure if we’ll actually follow the directive of what we
discover.
It’s
overwhelming. It’s work. It’s memories and fears… revisited. So, we
turn away, close the browser and never start. We continue on, as is,
living in a fog telling ourselves we’re found.
And whatever you decide, you will live that fate. You will live the fate you believe belongs to you.
If
you decide to open the box, lift the weight, do the digging, you’ll
find a whole new world opens up. You’ll find joy, light, hope, peace,
aspiration and inspiration to become your best self. You’ll get a
glimpse behind the curtain to the ultimate possibility of your life.
It feels so good to live in truth. To feel at home in who and what you are. To arrive at a deep knowing
of your authentic self and why you’re here — your service in this
lifetime — and when you follow this, to inspire others to do the same.
You
begin to change the world as we know it. You step into something
bigger, something meant to be, and you unlock the keys to your ultimate
potential… and all of humanity’s.
A
switch is flipped. The journey to your best life begins, and the tape
on repeat finally stops. All energy forcing that tape to play over and
over, to hide what your heart knew, now goes toward your growth, your
expansion and your arrival as your authentic self.
Nothing is easy. This isn’t either. But it’s so fucking freeing.
You show up in the world feeling grounded and bound to your future by
your truth. It’s like any struggle comes with a promise for better.
Whereas the struggle when you’re just stuck in your small self ends in
more small-self living.
One bad day, one bad week, doesn’t sway you. You know it is part of the journey, and you know what lies on the other side.
I’ve found a simple way to start down the path, and there are three steps. I call it The Empowerment Formula.
And it isn’t complex. And I’ve come to believe that if you can simply
say yes to starting, to the possibility that’s on the other end, then
you can absolutely change your life for the better. No matter what life
situation you are in now.
And
the best part, following this formula gives you clarity in everything
you do and helps you course-correct with conviction. Yes! You can
finally take Mom off speed-dial. We’ve got you.
Now,
I despise any sort of quick-fix promise. This isn’t that. This is a
promise of simplicity. What it takes to live with clarity, purpose and
fulfillment isn’t complicated, but getting to the yes — and then getting
to the heart of what is deep-down you — sometimes
can be. And, in my opinion, it’s not a journey to be taken alone. It’s
one that requires some outside eyes to reflect that which we don’t see.
Coaches being the best partner, an unbiased third party, trained to
guide you through the process gently and not let any shortcuts
compromise the truth-finding experience.
So here it is, the three-part formula for living your best life:
- Deeply know who you are: Core Values
- Understand why you’re here: Mission and Purpose
- Become self-aware of what’s holding you back: Find a Way Through Your Shit
Ta-da!
That’s it. No, really, once you know what you need in your life to feel
happy and fulfilled (core values) and get a deeper sense of what you
want to create with your life (your mission and purpose for being), a
plan, a vision, an outlook forms in your head. Your world begins to open
up to what your life can be… and then when the doubt, fear, and
disbelief start to fog your best-life vision — and for some of us this
happens in seconds so we barely get to bask in the glory that is our
ideal life vision — you work on the limiting beliefs, the why not, or
why me? It’s like the moment you get to see your dream in front of you,
your fearful self kicks in the fog, so you keep your eyes behind the
curtain. And that’s when the coach is at their best, when they remind
you of what you believe as your authentic, truthful self. They help you
empower yourself through reflection, juxtaposition, mirroring. And soon
enough, you’ll begin doing it for yourself. You’ll learn how to be your
own coach — the greatest gift you can give yourself is the lifelong
mental framework taught by a great coach.
But often the hardest part is becoming the person who believes you deserve it.
The part when you must find a way through the shit that holds you back.
It doesn’t go away, but what you can do, within weeks, is identify a
way THROUGH it. As Collective Gain coach Kim Rowe says, “All we need to
get through a great big pile of limiting-belief shit is one little door,
one belief that we can hold on to that will carry us through to the
other side.”
And
then, when you find your way through, when you disembark from your own
limiting self and step into your “I got this and ain’t no one gonna stop
me now” self, you have something to hold on to. You have the lifeline
that leads you out the cave: 1) the reassurance that there is a way out,
2) a map to where you’re headed and 3) the confidence in knowing that
that line will lead you there, period, you just need to follow it.
Okay, so now what. You get it. You want to give it a go… Here comes the call to action. Why? Because our mission is to help people become their best self, and to do that, requires their participation.
At
Collective Gain you can work 1:1 with a coach in your own 12-week
intensive program that starts with who you are and ends with why you’re
here… it’s the best way to uncover your truth. And it’s how I originally
did it — to find my own truth. Go here to get matched with the right coach for you. We offer flat-rate introductory pricing to get you started.
Those
located in or near Los Angeles (and those who can travel here) can join
us for a one-day intensive workshop. On March 18, I will be hosting a
one-day #LIVEYOURTRUTH Empowerment Event
where you can experience the awakening of your own truth. We will do
work on core values, mission/purpose and shifting your shit to find your
doorway through. You will also get 1:1 and group support with some of
LA’s most referred coaches — meet them, pick their brains.
Just
don’t try this all on your own. Just like you can’t see your own ass,
you can’t see all the shit and limiting beliefs that are keeping your
dream far, far off… your lifeline buried. Begin with human-to-human
support — it doesn’t feel intense, it feels liberating. To be heard, to
see and discover together, what truth lies within. Coaches have the best
jobs.
And if you want to still be an observer, that’s ok too. You can get content, tips and first access to events via our email newsletter or follow me here for the occasional Collective Gain company update.
It
feels so good to deeply know who you are and to believe in the
realization of your best self. It’s not something to be feared, it’s
something to be embraced. And we’re here to help you, now, or when
you’re ready.
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